A dear friend

I’m slowly starting to ease into the “new school” year. It’s been a few hectic weeks. And if I’m being honest, probably much longer.

As a multi passionate person, I sometimes overcommit. I say “yes” often. After reflecting on “why”, it stems from a scarcity mindset. I fear if I say “no”, opportunities won’t resurface.

As a coach, I know this isn’t true. In fact, I help others decrease or eliminate “energy zappers”. Because whenever we feel anxious, the water begins to overflow from our pail. So, removing vs adding makes room for clarity and grace.

And oddly enough, our mood and energy begin to expand.

As I pondered on this, I noticed that I treat myself to a different standard. Because my “inner voice” isn’t as kind or forgiving as it is to a friend, co-worker, or client.

Can you relate?

If you answered “yes”, I invite you to join me in something I’ll be focusing on.  

Whenever you “catch yourself” ruminating, belittling something you did or being hard on yourself:

·      Take a deep breath.

·      Relax your shoulders.

·      Imagine you’re speaking to a dear friend.

·      “What would you say?”

·      “What would your voice sound like?”

Take a micro moment to see whether this gentler approach helps.

And if “yes”

Rinse.Wash.Repeat as best as you can.

With all my love,

Alex